Why do men cast a spell on me?

I've just split up with a lying, controlling fantasist after two years. Thing is this happen in my last relationship too. I'm scared I'll do it again and I'm 42. I feel like giving up on men. These guys had me completely hoodwinked and it's embarring. I really thought they were what they pretended to be. It has made me ill and crazy. I'm so loving and caring and don't deserve all this. I feel I'm getting too old to be bothered looking for love. Any advice from ladies or gents welcome.